featured problem ...
I don't understand
How is it that some girls always have a boyfriend, whilst others, no matter how pretty, nice, funny, interesting or smart they are, never do? I'm genuinely interested in what this 'X' factor is that means some girls are simply attractive to guys without any real reason. For example, I have a friend who's 'buxom', really nice and funny, except a little self obsessed, and she's very grungy - but shes always going out with hot guys that I could never hope to get; whereas another intellectual, pretty friend, who is the funniest person I've ever met, (although she is quite paranoid, and stupid sometimes) has never even kissed a guy? I really don't understand what it is that makes someone a boy magnet, because it blatantly isn't anything conventionally obvious, so could one of you guys give me a little indication into what this 'X' factor is?
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Auntie selena says...
Well of course darling, this is the $1m question. I think myself that it comes down to social skills and to seeming confident and cool. Generally speaking, people don't get crushes on people who seem gawky, out of control, likely to embarrass themselves, high maintenance, difficult to talk to or brittle. A little bit of mystery and unattainability can help but you've also got to be able to make conversation easily and generally seem good fun. Unfortunately some of the most interesting and nicest people can fail to make the grade because intelligent often equals not straightforward. Tell your friend not to worry, as she gets older and more confident her time will come.
Auntie aggie says...
I haven't read your problem. Quite frankly I've got better things to do. Pull yourself together!
drNelson says...
You seem to have a problem with your confidence you see cute guys and people you think are good looking but you need to keep your cool because they may not be homosexual . Boost your confidence and check for any homosexual clubs and things you could go to just type it in google and type in the area you live. hmm the problem with telling the ones closest to you. dont feel bad about this. you may feel nervous,embbaraced you name it it happens the best thing to do is talk.. which parent do you feel you can talk to or any other family member explain to them be strong dont breakdown just explain about your sexuality and that you are happy these feelings are genuine. heres my email chaz_nelson@hotmail.co.uk im a doctor im young so no worries you can talk to me about anything in the world . i promise you i will help you and make you feel better . be strong :)
croosh says...
No. Merry Christmas.
thebroken_minor says...
I wish I knew...
E-Murderdoll says...
It not the girls problem - the giuys maybe dont feel up to it enough to approach them.
Miss Sweetheart says...
you can look at it both wayes... it can be because of the way the girl is to boys, is she open for it or just really closed... like there's a wall around her, it makes it hard for guys to talk to her.. and some girl are just really easy, and it shows, and that's what most guys like... but remember that that kind of relationship doesn't last that long.. en it also because of the guys.. most of them don't want to do to much effort, and some of them are just really scared of confident girls.. and they prefer the insecure girls...
phone*licking*muppet says...
Skimmed this, all anyone needs to read is _ I have this friends with huge norks or always gets blokes, and me and my other friends dont get a look in - can anyone tell me why this is? Answers on a postcard please ....
Adolfus says...
The X-factor is how slutty you are.
That is all.
vitamin says...
sweetie, i feel exactly the same way
YourNO1fan says...
X factor equals confidence my love....look at what you wrote about your prettier friend you described her as paranoid....guys want a girl whos not going to care what others think of her but yes I used to be like this, I reckon I am attractive not being full of myself but i'm shy....not as bad as I used to be, I generally get on better with guys these days.
lil helper says...
well what you've got to think about is whether the boy is decent enough just after something else. if you just wait then maybe you will find someone. boyfriends come and go so hold tight and let the right person find you.
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